High school is the time of puberty. And puberty is a time of intense exposure and vulnerability. Whatever toxic shame a person carries from childhood will be tested in high school. Often teenage groups look for a scapegoat, someone everyone can dump and project their shame onto. This was Arnold's fate. He was viciously shamed by his female peer group. This accounted for his problem with women

Nakedness symbolized their true and authentic selves. They were who they were, and they were okay with it. There was nothing to hide. They could be perfectly and rigorously honest.

Leaving home includes both physical and emotional leaving.

Matthew quotes Jesus as saying, 'I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to put sons against fathers and daughters against mothers.

We were born ourselves. This can only be done by separating from our family systems designations and from our parents' beliefs and opinions about us. Jesus Christ was strong in affirming the impossibility of finding God, much less ourselves, unless we left home.

We leave home by giving up our scripts and rigid roles.

We cannot nurture our lost self unless we leave home.

Creative choice is your birthright. Please own it.

Being in love is a transient state of psychosis.

I know from my own clinical work that when people are beaten and hurt, they numb out so that they can't feel anymore.