When I’m in a couple, I feel I’m disappearing, dying – losing my mind.

Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand – when you’re loved, someone wants more of you.

The author Karen Blixen once said, ‘All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell a story about them.’ But what if a person can’t tell a story about his sorrows? What if his story tells him?

A lot of people, especially psychoanalysts, assume that happiness can only be found in a couple – but not all of us are made for a relationship.

He seemed never to have acquired a skill that we all need: the ability to make another person worry about us.

The future is a fantasy that shapes our present.

At one time or another, most of us have felt trapped by things we find ourselves thinking or doing, caught by our own impulses or foolish choices; ensnared in some unhappiness or fear; imprisoned by our own history. We feel unable to go forward and yet we believe that there must be a way.

Being present builds a child’s confidence because it lets the child know that she is worth thinking about.

All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell a story about them. But if we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story tells us- we dream these stories, we develop symptoms, or we find ourselves acting in ways we don’t understand.

There cannot be change without loss.