When our binoculars are focused on the dad as “deadbeat,” it often even leads us to missing concrete cues a dad gives to show his desire to be involved.

I'm not saying that men make better fathers than women do mothers.

I don't think there's anything that is a greater area of discrimination against women today than the fact that nowhere in the world is there a female role model in team sports that more than half of a general audience would recognize.

Nobody has said to men, 'It is OK if you want to be a full-time dad; find a woman who will support you.'

Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.

I've always been motivated to stop people from doing dysfunctional things.

The male corporate model is built on a man's greater willingness to be a slave of sorts - especially once he has to provide for children.

Helping your son develop his sense of purpose requires beginning at a very different place than his dad-or granddad. His dad or granddad was told his sense of purpose. Your job is to help your son find his sense of purpose.

Three-quarters of dads who were in South Carolina jails for being behind in child support payments suffer from extreme poverty. And one-eighth of all South Carolina inmates are in jail for being behind in child support payments. No dad is imprisoned for not spending enough time with his children. And it is rare for a mom to go to jail for preventing dad from spending enough time with his children.

And this problem extends to other professions on which security depends: 70 percent of firefighters and 80 percent of police officers are also obese or overweight.