91 Quotes About Survivors-of-abuse

Many survivors struggle to believe the abuse happened. They don’t want to believe it. It’s too painful to think about. They don’t want to accuse family members or face the terrible loss involved in realizing “a loved one” hurt them; they don’t want to rock the boat.

Abuse is a parasite that feeds off hate and shame, growing in size and strength with silence.

If you survive, you have to prove it was that bad; or else, they think you are.Surviving is some kind of sin, like floating up off the dunking stool like a witch. You have to be permanently écorchée, heart-on-sleeve, offering up organs and body parts like a medieval female saint.

Life has not been able to break me and it will not break you. Stand tall for you are loved, you are enough, you are able, and in the end we will survive.

You deserve freedom. You owe it to yourself. You are anything but selfish whenever you decide to stand up for yourself!

The experience of chronic abuse carries within it the gross mislabeling of things. Perpetrators are really "nice daddies." Victims are "evil and seductive" (at the age of three!). Nonprotecting parents are "tired and busy." The survivor makes a giant leap forward when [he or ]she can call abuse by its right name and grasp the concept that what was done was a manifestation of the heart of the perpetrator, not the heart of the victim.

...there is a particular focus of the problem faced only by men. It arises from our culture providing no room for a man as victim.

Maybe you’re barely making it, yet you persist. Don’t condemn yourself or allow anyone to make you feel guilty, worthless, or degraded. Give yourself credit for getting to where you are.

Survive...Some women surviveby creating walls,big walls guarding their heartsand you say"let them in"butshe has been covered in regrets,crawled on all fours for her salvation.Dont curse themfor when her attacker camethere she was, loving, nowshe has built her wallsbrick by brickguarding against parasitesDon't blame herSome women are broken,not ready to be healed,some women are brokennot ready for loveand that's all right.Let her find herselfLet her become her own sunLet her